Dear writers


Writers are weird. I wonder why every one of them thinks it’s only a woman that feels pain.

She knew it, she did that, she hid this, she fought that

Don’t men feel a thing? Have our sensory organs numbed down? Why do you associate pain with a gender when it’s the same for everyone? Men are emotional, men know pain. Sometimes, it’s inexplicable. We deserve literature as much as women do.

Stop being a man. Stop siding with women.

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  1. crazywitch25 says:

    My dad is extremely emotional. I ignore it. Usually, if a normal male cries or what not, I become confused and kind of want to leave. The exception is combat veterans. It’s like, wow, that really did suck. It’s expressed differently.

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    1. Okay why do you want to leave?

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      1. crazywitch25 says:

        probably due to the experiences I’ve had with my dad. When my stepdad shows emotion, he paces with his arms crossed. I once punched my hand through a wall, and he paced for an hour and made it known, but he didn’t yell at me past when I was little and doing something bad. He’s never hurt me. I guess I look at him as more of a model or understanding of a male.

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        1. You punched your hand through a wall?? What are you? Hulk? 😅 Every male is different from the other.

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          1. crazywitch25 says:

            I had to get a job, and I was being a brat about it. I wanted to play soccer. Teens don’t understand some things. Not only did I punch my hand through the wall, but I also cracked a line all along the wall of the basement. I’m in terrible shape now, but I used to be very strong. I didn’t get into fights in HS. I’m not a punk. I kept it in the back of the mind that I could crush a few people.

            I only bullied one person who was smarter and prettier than me because I was jealous and wanted her to be my best friend. I just took her on bicycle rides and up a lot of hills she struggled with. It took a long time for her to figure out that that was abuse. She was such a nice person. She had great parents, but they didn’t teach her to worry about the intentions of other people and that they could be bad. Too positive. We went to a lakehouse together, and she thought it was super rebellious that I kept her up all night. She had never stayed up through the night. She also, due to having a healthy, normal childhood did not always understand English class very well. I’m kind of mad at the school system for teaching certain things because most “normal” people won’t understand or be able to analyze or grow with them.

            I’ve got the trashcan covered. Walk through all the beer bottles to get mac and cheese.

            However, it goes against my nature and personality to punch someone or fight them. The last person who tried to fight me in the army just annoyed me. I used my foot to keep the door from opening. I let her rage go until she became tired.

            haha, enjoy the spam.

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            1. Getting a job isn’t easy, I know the struggle. I’m surprised I still got one.
              You must be pretty strong. Shape can be changed, right? Hit the gym!!
              Are you working now?? And abut that girl, you still talk to her? Everything okay between you two?
              You’re a vet?

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            2. crazywitch25 says:

              nah, she has a reputation to maintain. She’s a doctor. To me, she looked sheltered growing up. I sent her a nasty letter at 17, and I’m still mad at her parents over it. They had her attack me back, and she showed everyone. She knew better than that by then. Everyone saw me coming and going. She offered me a ride a few times. The reason she got the letter, if I remember, was because I was going mad/insane over the cold weather. I become aggressive. I used to get these red eyes and fevers. I will say though, that if you want to look eternally pretty, it brightens up a person’s look a lot. lol

              She did commend me on trying to avoid being worthless. “Many people would give up and become worthless!” Yeah, those people were smarter.

              I was in the army for three years.

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            3. Well kudos to you on that. Let her maintain her reputation while we do ours. Okay? How was life in army like?

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  2. Petrina says:

    Good thing there are many healthy ways of expression! Too often, boys are conditioned to believe that males are not allowed to be human and admit pain or seek help. This leads to men having bottled up pain, rage and violence. They often target the women in their lives.

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    1. We do not target the women in our lives.😐

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      1. Petrina says:

        Certainly not all men target their women, but sadly some do. It is not uncommon.

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        1. I won’t disagree but women aren’t innocent either.

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          1. Petrina says:

            Truth!

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  3. Aabida gani says:

    Writers are undoubtedly weird 😂

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  4. ANANYA says:

    I don’t know about writers😅 but I have always asked my guy friends to open up their emotions rather than acting like robots🤖 just cuz there’s a saying “mard ko kabhi dard nahi hota”🙄. Come on dude, u gotta act more like a hooman!!!(my words to my friends)😂

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    1. Emotional expression of men has been stigmatised. Things will change if women are more understanding. 😅

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      1. ANANYA says:

        I understand my dumbo friends!😂. But sometimes they just don’t do it cuz they feel that judgements will be passed😶😕

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        1. Of course there will be comments and judgements.

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          1. ANANYA says:

            😔. U shouldn’t care about the judgements! 😔😔. It kills ur urge to Express your emotions and the ability to trust someone to share your feelings 😔

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            1. I don’t. I’m expressive. 😂

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            2. ANANYA says:

              Thankfully!!😂😂😂😂

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  5. Pavithra says:

    You are absolutely right!!

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  6. Agreed 100% .Men also go through same emotions as women

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  7. leenasind says:

    Does he feel less of a man if he cry? Society will never unlearn what is already cemented from ages. Men don’t cry. Wome

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  8. Do men feel pain? I know from personal experience that they do. Cuz I’ve felt it. Lots. More than what is psychologically healthy for me. Finally someone agrees with me. Gimme a high-five 🙌🏻🙌🏻

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    1. I’m happy to see someone agreeing with me. High five!

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  9. Nicki Luce says:

    I hear you! And I hate that! Men (we, males. They’re vampires lol) cry in my books, they feel things deeply because why??? They have emotions, a brain, and feelings that can get hurt. I touch on the subject of masculinity so much because it’s restrictive. Expressing emotionally for men have been off the table for centuries. And I don’t want my son’s to think “I can’t cry or express myself because it’s not allowed.” I tell them all the time, it is okay to feel bad, cry and be sad. It’s alright.

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    1. I wish I had someone talk to me like that. I’m glad you tell your sons that. Men are humans and humans have emotions. There’s nothing wrong in expressing.

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  10. Petra says:

    That’s a fair point. Most of the classic literature was actually written for men and by man, but rarely with feelings, if you don’t count lust for power or sarcastic I am better than you type of smartness. I think only the Romantic era actually dealt with men’s feelings and suffering, so if you want to torture yourself, give Lord Byron a try.

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    1. Agreed. But yeah, if you really look at romance, it’s always men writing about women. Oh I love Lord Byron! But I’m not a poet and I’m not into poetry. I love Albert Camus and Nietzsche.

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      1. Petra says:

        I like their writing too, nothing like nihilism in today’s world 😅

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        1. Makes more sense than ever. You a nihilist??

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          1. Petra says:

            Not at all, I guess I used to be when I was younger . But it’s an interesting mindset

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  11. Nour R. says:

    Emotions what? Who? I don’t know WHO that is. I prefer to be neither this nor that, I prefer being numb. I’m a liberal that way 😊💅

    Also do you like metal music? :3

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    1. Ah Nour, Nuhr, Noor!! Are you that emotionless?
      Metal gives me headache. I’m more of a classic rock person.

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      1. Nour R. says:

        Perhaps. Or more accurately yes 😂
        Ah sad. =,) Definitely metal over rock

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        1. That bland emotionless face? Always??

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          1. Nour R. says:

            I’m not particularly fond of expressing emotions no
            Just not my thing 🤷‍♀️

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            1. Nour R. says:

              As if you’re any different 🤨

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            2. I’m an embodiment of infinite emotions

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            3. Nour R. says:

              Maybe we’re referring to different spectrums then :3

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            4. Visible definitely.

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  12. Quite very true… Men are fed on the system of being brought up to have no emotions…

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    1. I’m afraid it’s permanent

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      1. HAHHAA dont worry your emotions are all over your writings.
        On a serious note yes more people are accepting the idea of sensitive emotional side of man.

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        1. Thanks Raghavashree. I wish you had a shorter name. 😅

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          1. HAHAA No woriies. Its Raghavasree . LOl you can call me by my middle name-Veera 🙂

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            1. I could guess by your name you mentioned in your posts. G.V. 😅
              V is Veera or Venkata in Telugu naming tradition. 😂😂

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            2. Oh boy you know your research well and too observant i see. HAHAH lol I am a telugu amayai Mr Creepy

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            3. I’m Telugu abbai so I know 🤷🏻‍♂️

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            4. Abbo meru challa tope andhi….read it via andhra accent Abbai

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            5. Haha ah manchidi. Read that in a neutral accent, Ammai.

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            6. Abbi neutral accent undadhu. Either andra or telagana or the legendary srikakulam accent

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            7. Srikakulam odhu le😂
              Telangana okay.

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            8. HAHHAHA lol. Ayyy neutral accent Abbi darilo ochinav uppudu

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            9. Nen daarlane unna. 😎

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            10. ABBBOOO!!!! Neutral accent ani evaru start chesaru???

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            11. Mostly neutral eh untadi. Adgitene accent ostadi, mostly person ni batti. 😂😂

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            12. Abbeyyy!! Neutral anni specialga ammi undadu Maha Prabu. A person ani batti depends on the environment Abbi

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            13. Sare ippatiki aithe nuv edhi ante adhe 😂

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            14. Papam Abbi oripoiadu…I am always right 😛

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            15. Ippude ocha intiki, asssal opika ledhu Ammai.

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            16. ohhhh Papam…Kuncham rest tisuko

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            17. Already resting. College start kaale??

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            18. Good. NAAA!!Na brothuki online classes

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            19. Manchide ga. Intlo undi happy ga classes attend avoch.

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            20. HAHAH thats the worst part… Hoil vaction turned to 8 months house arrest babu. Meku ammi telusu ma kastalu

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            21. Antha kashtam emundi? Odhu odhu ankuntune office ki povalsi ostundi. Happy ga undu intlo. 😞

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            22. Intlo bore appa. No books nothing

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            23. Pdfs esko manchiga. Inka ideas kavala cheppu! Mast unnai na daggara.

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            24. HAHAA lol. I have but i cant study from phone man. meru thope andhhi

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            25. Waste whatever time you have until you’re back in college then. Emaina mee tarvate ma’am.

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            26. Hahah easier said than done… Vaduu meru antha ekku?? Ramma Ramma papam chuthukunthudhi😆😆

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            27. Bah bah ah bhasha enti? Rama Rama anta. 🤣

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            28. Hahhah avunu andhi… Meh gopalluki ardam avadhu… So sad …

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            29. Em sangati gaallo leptunaru? Padedham ane kada??

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            30. Hahahha i will let ur good brain to figure it out 😆😆😆

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            31. My brain has figured it out and senses no imminent danger 😌

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            32. Hahahah that’s where it is wrong pal

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            33. You judge too early, girl.

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            34. Hahah well it went never wrong😇

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            35. There’s always a first time

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            36. Haha i doubt it 🤣🤣

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            37. I don’t. You shouldn’t either.
              We’ll see.

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            38. Han ji… Only time can answer it

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  13. they feel but most pretend they don’t rare one..

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    1. They’re forced to because Y’know, society.

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  14. itsa30sthing says:

    Men probably struggle with their emotions more than women I say, simply because they are seen as the protectors and the dominant species therefore they have to be “tough, strong and fearless” this is a label that men have unfortunately been lumbered with since the beginning of time and because of this men don’t express themselves as much as they should.

    Perhaps if they did express themselves as much as women do then the two wouldn’t be compared when it comes to feelings because it would just be seen as normal. I say bravo to any man who is openly expressive about thoughts and feelings in the same way a woman would. If men keep this up it will be like a game of follow the leader eventually, more men will follow suit and this stigma of men having to be the tougher sex will be gone a buried. From a personal point of view equality is a winner, support for men emotionally just as much as a woman.

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    1. I think equality is something that’s not remotely possible looking at the conditions we have created in the society.

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      1. itsa30sthing says:

        Well I have hope that one day there is….even if it isn’t in our lifetime. If we created society as it is now we learn from it and can create from those lessons for our future generations. Things have to evolve surely

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        1. It’s far away for now, ma’am. Things take time and the evolution I’m seeing is not hopeful.

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  15. akshita1776 says:

    So agree to this…

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  16. Real men are the one who are not afraid to show their emotions. Well said.
    This reminds of a video by Ayushmann Khurrana.. Jisko dard hota hai asal me wo hi mard hota hai.

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    1. Pain doesn’t restrict itself to genders and species, Yeshu. Dard sabko hota hai par jo bol sakta hai, wo insaan hai.

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      1. I agree Bharath. Just said that in the context of your post.

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        1. I get that. Thanks. 🙂

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  17. Anushk@ says:

    The thing is real men has emotions that he tries to hide within himself and when you get an idea, nothing really compares to it.
    ( I don’t know what I wrote, but I think you understood what I’m trying to say🙈)

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    1. You got that right, Anushka. It makes sense.

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  18. Amartya says:

    conventions? I feel so.

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    1. Amartya says:

      Like we are shaped to think that way.

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    2. Conventions, stereotypes and shit.

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  19. sanikakendhe says:

    You are right 👍

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  20. HappySoul says:

    I agree with you so much on this. Expression of feelings is so individualistic n not gender based …but this is not limited to writers I guess .. people speak so too 😬😄

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    1. I think it’s because most of them sympathise more with women and rest are pervs trying to impress. 😬

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      1. HappySoul says:

        Actually I agree 😂ykw should have posted this on Men’s day ☺️19th

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        1. I didn’t know it existed until a friend of mine wished me on whatsapp later that day and by then, it was too late. Better late than never. 😛
          And what difference does having a day like that make? Bored people create days like these.

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          1. HappySoul says:

            That’s true! I don’t see any point in Men’s day women’s day and latest addition Children’s day named after a politician’s bday. It’s frustrating to teach kids to write essay on children’s day

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            1. Children’s day is for dressing up and celebrating. At least when I was in school.
              Why’s his bday children’s day? I never understood that. I’d value these days only if it’s a day off.

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            2. HappySoul says:

              Colour dress day. Talk about significance etc etc 🙆‍♀️
              😅because he loves kids supposedly..

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            3. Does he?? I always found the rose on his kurta creepy. 😅

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            4. HappySoul says:

              Isn’t it!!!! Me tooo 🙌😄

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            5. You too?? Cheers to that. 🤣🤣

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  21. Men are written to do, not feel, typically.

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    1. That’s the problem. We feel too.
      We’re only expected to do, that reflects the exploitation.

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      1. That makes me feel 😥

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        1. I sense a shitload of sarcasm here

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            1. Now I see shit. Great.

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            2. I am just playing, friend.

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            3. Oh I get that, sire.

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          1. Watch, my next post will have some feelings.

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            1. I see you changed your profile pic. You look like Clark Kent.

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            2. And you like Jonah Hex before he got his powers.

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            3. Ha ha! I will be putting that on my next post as well. It will be today or tomorrow!

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            4. I’ll be watching 🥸

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            5. Oops, my bad. Next post. The last one you so SHOULD NOT read. 🤠🔥

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            6. I’m sorry man, I read it. 😂

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            7. Oh dear…. Do you think me and ole Mr. Hex are related?

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            8. I think you’re him. Is that gun real??

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            9. It is a pellet gun that is a .357 replica. It can kill a small animal.

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            10. Are you out duck hunting?

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            11. No. That is my back yard.

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            12. I like your backyard.

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            13. Thanks. I do a lot of gardening.

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            14. Do you have time for that?

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            15. Not really, but I try. What do you like to do?

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            16. I usually like to do nothing but I enjoy going on hikes and treks.

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            17. Nice. What kinds of wildlife have you encountered?

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            18. Just the regular birds and stray dogs. Not much wildlife here.

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            19. Countryside but not far. Wildlife exists either in zoo or in a protected sanctuary which is a no go zone.

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            20. Oh. I see. Did you like the shout out post?

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            21. Aye, my good sire. Wasn’t expecting that. My gratitude.

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            22. It was fun doing the photos. Folks stopped to watch.

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            23. Haha of course, you were over the fence. 😂

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            24. It is hard work being this good.

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            25. Sure is but you do it anywya

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            26. I suspect you do as well.

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            27. What is it you do again?

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            28. HR executive. 😅

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            29. Nah. The season is closed for now.

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            30. Bummer. Are you lowering then?

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            31. Myself? I guess I am.

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            32. So Bharath, what are 3 words that describe you?

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            33. Brother’s Campfire is always looking for contributing authors. We do not pay, but the Brotherhood lasts a long time and you go home smelling like Campfire. The Colorado Department of Corrections needs Officers.

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            34. Smell like campfire? I like that. Sign me up.

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            35. Send me a message at my contact page and you are hired!

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            36. I sent you mail to be a contributor.

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            37. Woot! Welcome to the Campfire! On your posts, you can make drafts. I can post them for you!

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            38. Aye! Help me out with that, will ya?

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            39. Go to my site and log in with your WordPress credentials. Create a post.

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            40. I mean, on what to write.

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            41. https://brotherscampfire.com/login/

              Whatever you like. You can do an introduction of yourself and then write a story, poem, something family oriented.

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            42. Gotcha. I’ll be on it soon. 😎

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            43. Cool. You can also leave links to your site on the page.

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            44. I will, sire. Thank you.

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  22. Nawazish says:

    Writers are weird!🙃🙃
    “Mard ko dard nahi hota” suna nahi aapne😂😂😂

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    1. Mard ko bhi dard hota Lekin dekhega kaun? “Be a man” ye kehte chale jaate.🥺

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      1. Nawazish says:

        Don’t be a man! Feel free to Express. Kuch to log kahenge,logo ka kaam hain kehna🤭🤭

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        1. I am expressive, you should know that by now. Ye gaana tha Kya??

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            1. Nawazish says:

              Kuch to log kahenge

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            2. That’s the name of song itself??

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            3. Thank you Nawazish

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            4. Nawazish says:

              🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

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            5. Nawazish says:

              Why thank you?🤔🤔

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            6. Nawazish says:

              Ooooooo….then welcome😊

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  23. Kamya Seervi says:

    You’re right, writers are weird.

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