Awake


I saw a woman happily walking home, alone, at 12 AM.

And then I woke up.


The society is a marketplace, everyone is a customer; everyone, is a marketer. We’re so good at branding: any woman who shows up with a guy at a public place is ‘branded’ a slut. I wonder why the guy isn’t labelled gigolo.

Our society is so considerate, there’s no need for women to venture out alone because men can handle things. No, men HAVE to handle things. Why? Because they’re men. A woman is supposed to handle chores and nothing else. Why? Because she’s a woman. You got any another answers, mate? Because that’s what they tell me.

Why are we even educating women? They gotta sit back home anyway. Girls aren’t allowed to go out after 6 pm. It’s for their own good, I know. You’re being protective. Who are you protecting them from? Men. Do you see the point?? Men protect their women from other MEN. Who’s responsible? Oh yeah, society. Also, Times are bad.

What else do you expect from a society so liberal that only women can be raped and raped men are stamped as “lucky” to have gotten sex without consequences (fuck consent).

Who cares about gender equality when there’s economic inequality!?


Oh yeah, I’m awake now.

62 Comments Add yours

  1. The moment I read “a woman walking ‘happily’ at 12 am”
    I knew you were dreaming!

    A few relatives of mine were actually taken aback and argued with me when I asked my brother to sweep the floor.. (he did actually because of course we weren’t brought up in such a conservative family!)
    I recently came across an article which was actually written in the 1790s (British newspaper article)
    “Women are subjected to the authority of either their fathers or husbands”
    Though written centuries back, it’s still the situation everywhere!😐
    It’s been injected into us that we wouldn’t survive without a male beside us! 🤣 What’s more ridiculous than this!?

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    1. That depends on how and what a woman thinks about herself. Things change when they start changing.

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      1. I thought the same… If we could change our own perspective and opinions and be independent in our own way, no one would question us. Even if they did, just don’t give a damn about it.
        But believe me, I did.
        I’m back in square one.
        But I have started to not give a shit about anything that holds me back.. just keep moving and help the ones who are in need of help.

        If you can’t speak for yourself, then no one can!

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        1. Yeah you got that right. 🙂

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  2. This is so true. When we dare to speak of gender stereotypes, even within the family, we are labeled feminists or those who stand against societal norms and can’t be practical with the worldly life. I wonder who sets these norms.

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    1. Idiots are those who carried the norms forward.

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  3. Bharath you woke up the sleeping feminist in me. I was always told that I should keep away from men, because the community tagged “male”, is fraud, as they say Men are Dogs but also it’s said Women are witches, it’s no more about gender, I think it shouldn’t be generalized. I’ve seen women against women, I have watched it in movies, I read it in literature, women are more tyrannical.

    They blame it on men, they call it male gaze, before a male checks out what a women is wearing or why is she roaming alone giving him a licence to approach her, Women around her will question her. We aren’t United, women are jealous of women, no matter how many people come out and talk about the same thing, things aren’t going to change, we’ll speak it out and it’ll be forgotten.
    I don’t trust women as much as I don’t trust men.

    But I’m glad you talked about it today, it’s always good to read your thoughts.

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    1. This is true. Women are jealous of women and it makes no fucking sense. Men are better companions, I must say. 😅

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      1. Even men hate each other. It’s not gender specific again.
        But undoubtedly men make better companions. I agree.

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  4. kimmagic says:

    This is so true. Thank you for waking up, we need the of the world to open their damned eyes and face this reality.

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    1. There are good people too

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      1. kimmagic says:

        Yes. I was talking about the other side of good here.

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  5. Lia says:

    Wow. 6 pm. And no going out in public without social consequences… I didn’t know. Really great post Bharath.

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    1. Not exactly but parents are afraid of sending their daughters out after sunset, thanks to pervs.

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      1. Lia says:

        “thanks to pervs” 😂🤣
        But seriously though, ok yes, thanks for clarifying that… and I guess I can understand it. change can be slow, and parents want to protect their kids… but I love the points you brought up and the discussion it generated. 🙏👌

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        1. Always a pleasure to have you here.

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  6. Kamya Seervi says:

    You know what, I’ve been meaning to write about this particular problem since a while.
    I think after reading this, I’m more eager to write that post and put it out for people to read.
    I’m really glad you talked about it 👍

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    1. Then write, I wanna know your take on this.

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      1. Kamya Seervi says:

        Definitely. I have a lot to say…

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  7. HappySoul says:

    “Who are you protecting them from? Men. Do you see the point?? – “
    You nailed it!!!! Many things that my mom taught me in my teens is coming back…. I’ll share this post with her! She will love it!

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    1. I wanna know what she taught you.

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      1. HappySoul says:

        Hee haa.. self defence was what came to my mind reading your post. Change in the thinking of society is far off for now, she said. We lived in an unsafe place actually. But it was the only option close to her office. Dint force me to come home early but taught how to sense trouble 🥺

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        1. Pass it on to your kids. Might come in handy.

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          1. HappySoul says:

            😅😅yeah!
            You know how worst the world is!! My first horrible experience was when I was in 3rd or 4th std!!! How innocent the mind is at that age!!! 🤐🙇🏻‍♀️ 😣so somehow I’m turning out to be very protective mommy for my daughters! That’s not good either 😅

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            1. Third or fourth? That’s too young for someone to experience such things.
              Protective mommy eh? 😄

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            2. HappySoul says:

              Exactly! That mind can’t comprehend what’s happening but the bruise never heals!
              Yaaa!! She wants to go to her music class alone … I give her permission yet I follow 😂… and she knows that!!! It’s nice to experience independence as kids, but I’m very scared!

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            3. Hahah! You follow? 😂

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  8. Lavanya says:

    It’s 2021 and when I see the condition of women especially in some specific states of India..it feels we are moving backward..
    U wrote it well👍

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    1. Religious orthodoxy and a conservative society do their part here.

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  9. akshita1776 says:

    I agree to each every line here. These stereotypical rulea are so absurd and stupid that they infuriate me to no end. I think we need gender neutrality instead of equality.

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    1. Gender neutrality isn’t possible given the conditions. Equality is not possible either, we have to find a common ground.

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  10. Serious consequences and laws need to be in place!

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    1. There are serious consequences and laws and most of the time, they’re the problem. Laws are taken advantage of.

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      1. You’re right this is the problem then!
        WHAT DO I KNOW?!
        WISH I could help! 💖

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        1. We’re still using the laws from the times of British colonisation. There are new ones but we’re not there yet.
          We do what we can with what we have. 🙂

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  11. Nameera says:

    I absolutely loved the format of this one! It’s a literal living nightmare that thrives on baseless and nonsensical projections of the society. Thank you for putting this out here!

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    1. Thank you Nameera, but unfortunately I don’t see any changes yet and it feels like there won’t be any anytime soon.

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      1. Nameera says:

        I second that. Things seem to go downhill in all spheres. Take my college for example, I’ve to block at least a dozen retards who have no sense of how to respect and treat a woman. Then they ask me if they’re block lol yes you are, genius. And this block list also includes women, unsurprisingly. She wanted me to be her therapist and went I realised that she was Islamophobic, I slowly distanced myself from her because idk dude, it just got really distasteful for me and I couldn’t be two faced with her. Months later I found out, apparently received proof of the shit she talked behind my back – related to my religious identity and why I decided to move to India lmao cause I could’ve gone to US or UK. Hah. Right. Like this isn’t my country as much as it’s yours. It was truly disheartening. I told her to fuck off when even her apology included blaming someone else who actually genuinely apologized to me for saying those things. It was a horrible time, really.

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        1. Your college life seems to be very colourful. Perverts and islamophobes. Nice.
          I’ve had these people too back then, they hated me for talking to Muslims.

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          1. Nameera says:

            Oh yes, it sure is. People pretending to be friends then wanting to be more than friends then fleeing at the first sight of rejection and my personal choice and shit-talking then trying to come back then well, I don’t really like to deal with so much bullshit so they just get blocked – both offline and online.

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            1. Trying too hard, eh? Funny.

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            2. Nameera says:

              Very funny indeed.

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  12. It is the way we have been conditioned. We have been conditioned like this.
    Who wants equality? I don’t. Just treat us well. Emotions have no gender. Temper has no gender. Yet men lose temper easily and women are told to have patience and acceptance. As if patience and acceptance vary with gender.
    And thins like “Men will be men” also tells us that whatever you do, they aren’t going to change. It’s you (woman) who needs to change.

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    1. There has to be equality. We’re all equals here. There are anatomical differences which limit us to certain kinds of works in some cases but we are human and there are a million other things which can be shared, not just confined to gender stereotypes.
      Men will be men as long as women stay women. Women still think there are some things only men must do. Change that, and it’s a start.

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      1. It’s easier said than done. Gender differences will always remain at least in India. It’s not easy to understand.

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        1. It has to come from within individual families. People are more conservative nowadays and it’s alarming.

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  13. I don’t know what to say. This post just revealed the every day struggle we face. And honestly its not only men, its more women who put down other women.
    Thanks for this post Bharath.

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    1. I didn’t even mention the half of it. I’ve always argued that women are a woman’s worst enemy.
      Thank you, Yeshu.

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      1. Exactly. I don’t know when things will change or will it ever change. But it endearing to know that there are some of us who are aware of the problems and are fighting for it. This post speaks a lot.

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        1. I don’t see any change coming, but people are rather conservative here. Younger generations are getting worse.

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  14. Nawazish says:

    This is so true. The roles male and female are defined by such rigid boundaries that are difficult to cross. God knows who defined them but we as fool of it🥺 Rape is a heinous crime whether male or female is subjected to it. Also, sexual offenses against are under reported or not reported at all.

    Zamana bahut kharab hain🤭🤭

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    1. Yeah, those cases go unreported because they’re afraid of what society might think of them afterwards. Prestige.
      Zamana kharab nai log chutiye hai.

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  15. Nour R. says:

    I read the first sentence and I was like what world do you live in??? I don’t go out after like 5 pm and if I do I’ve a male companion
    People’s arguments are always BuT lOOk wHAt SHes WEaRinG
    Meanwhile my cousins and I were whistled at/catcalled/followed by cars or otherwise when we looked like children bc we WERE children
    I don’t think it’s about clothing now is it 🙂

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    1. Isn’t that stupid? The world we live in is so dysfunctional, everything and everyone is a potential threat. There are people who say clothing is provocative but it depends on your thinking, not clothes. That won’t change anytime soon.
      Even we were whistled at, when I was taking my sister out. People assume a boy and a girl to be in a relationship if they’re out together.
      Pity.

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